Reconciling Frugal Living and Unnecessary Splurges

by Mandi on September 9, 2010

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source: Shoshanah

We all have them — things we’re willing to spend more money on even though we try to live a frugal lifestyle overall. For some it may be Starbucks, while for others it may be designer shoes, eating out as a family,  a more expensive hair stylist or a trip to the most magical place on earth, Disney World.

Being responsible with our money, giving generously and planning for the future are all very important to our family. But while I balk at spending extra in the grocery store just for the cereal with the cartoon character shapes, our family loves to eat out — where the meal is served to us and cleaned up for us, so we really can just enjoy dinner as a family –  and the pumpkin spice latte from Starbucks may be my favorite drink of all time. Disney World is one of our family’s favorite destinations, and there’s really nothing that compares to watching my girls eyes light up at seeing the princesses dance in front of the castle or meet their favorite character.

Those things may seem like silly splurges to you and your family, but I’m betting you have some of your own. So how can you reconcile these things with your frugal lifestyle?

Plan for Them

Tara from Deal Seeking Mom and I have been friends for a long time, and one thing she’s always said is that it’s easier to stick to a budget if you have something to look forward to. Some people give themselves allowances or blow money that can be spent any way they want, or if the splurge is a regular budgetary item (like eating out), you can just build it straight into your budget.

Look for Extra Income

You can also work extra for the splurges you don’t want to give up. For example, my husband loves building and flying remote-controlled airplanes, so he does some side work to pay for that hobby. I’ve also found that Swagbucks is a great way to be able to get the Donut  Shop K-Cups for my Keurig Coffee Maker without having to pay for them out of pocket. I just use Swagbucks search throughout the day and a couple times a month I cash out for a $5 Amazon.com gift card. You could make things to sell on Etsy, have a yard sale or walk the neighbors’ dog each day. The possibilities are virtually limitless if you look for ways to add value to other people’s lives!

Watch for Deals on the Things You Love

Just because something’s a splurge doesn’t mean that you can’t look for the best possible deal for your money. There are shopping sites that offer discount prices on designer products, like Gilt Groupe, and restaurant clubs that reward you for being a loyal patron, like TGI Friday’s Give Me More Stripes Club. You can travel to Disney during the off-season for much less than you can during the summer. And at a place like a hair salon, you can always just ask for a discount!

Don’t Judge

In the frugal community, there can be a competition factor to see who can live the most frugally. I’m all for cutting our expenses and being wise with our money (and we do things like cutting everyone’s hair at home rather than paying for six hair cuts), but I don’t want to become so focused on that that we don’t leave room to spend money on the things we love.

If your family thinks Starbucks coffee is overpriced, prefers home-cooked meals and would rather go camping than to Disney World, that is awesome…for you. But if you start looking down at other people because of the decisions they make with their hard-earned money, you may want to take a step back and consider whether it’s really worth your time to worry about what other people are doing!

What splurges does your family enjoy?

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  • http://www.AmyRuthBakes.com AmyRuth

    I’ve heard raspberries should be organic as well. Any info on that? Just wondering. I’m kinda new to organic eating.
    AmyRuth

  • Laura

    I’m a “Plan To Eat” user and under the popular/pantry list and then under the produce section, I added each of the dirty and clean produce and put a * next to each “dirty” item to let me know to try to buy those organic. Thanks for sharing the updated 2010 list!

  • Mandi

    This is such a great idea, Laura — would you mind if I post about it on the Plan to Eat blog?

  • http://momskitchenandstuff.com Brittany

    I am very familiar with the dirty dozen list…however we can afford to buy all organic…so for example – grapes – I soak them in water and baking soda to clean off any pesticides…baking soda is a natural substance so I don’t have to worry about eating a chemical cleaning agent…lol!

  • Mandi

    Ooh, what a great natural produce wash, Brittany! I think that the pesticides used on the dirty dozen absorb into the fruit and can’t be washed off (which is why they’re on the dirty dozen list), though. :(

  • http://momskitchenandstuff.com Brittany

    Booo, thanks for bursting my bubble ;)

  • http://www.simplekids.net Kara @Simple Kids

    I try to keep track of both of these lists, but it isn’t easy when the guidelines changes. Thanks for this handy cheatsheet – it is going to be one less thing I have to try to remember now :-)

  • Laura

    Not at all! :)

  • http://momskitchenandstuff.com Brittany

    OOOO! I really like the last point “Don’t Judge” Very well said!

    I’ve recently started using Swagbucks (I know, I was late to jump on…) and have also opened up my own Etsy Shop…

    Deleting those promo emails from my favorite stores has also helped ;)

  • http://momskitchenandstuff.com Brittany

    OOOO! I really like the last point “Don’t Judge” Very well said!

    I’ve recently started using Swagbucks (I know, I was late to jump on…) and have also opened up my own Etsy Shop…

    Deleting those promo emails from my favorite stores has also helped ;)

  • Mandi

    Promo emails are very effective, aren’t they? I always end up feeling like I need whatever it is they’re selling, so I don’t sign up for them anymore either! What do you sell in your Etsy shop?!

  • Mandi

    Promo emails are very effective, aren’t they? I always end up feeling like I need whatever it is they’re selling, so I don’t sign up for them anymore either! What do you sell in your Etsy shop?!

  • http://momskitchenandstuff.com Brittany

    Knitted Baby Booties…much better than the ones I had given you for #3 years ago….lol. I’ve gotten better with a LOT of practice…lol. Part of the sales goes to Compassion International’s Child Survival Program, which helps infants at risk.

  • http://momskitchenandstuff.com Brittany

    Knitted Baby Booties…much better than the ones I had given you for #3 years ago….lol. I’ve gotten better with a LOT of practice…lol. Part of the sales goes to Compassion International’s Child Survival Program, which helps infants at risk.

  • http://waterwatereverywhere.net MainlineMom

    Love it. I totally splurge on the occasional designer thing, only at a huge bargain, on sites like Gilt Groupe. I skimp on stuff like home decor or groceries.

  • http://waterwatereverywhere.net MainlineMom

    Love it. I totally splurge on the occasional designer thing, only at a huge bargain, on sites like Gilt Groupe. I skimp on stuff like home decor or groceries.

  • Lynn

    One of the things I hate about frugal-themed blogs is how judgmental people tend to be. I love an occasional pumpkin-spice latte (my all time fav too!), a nice dinner out, and we are even taking my girls to Disney in December and not cutting any corners. Do I make sacrifices elsewhere? Absolutely. I don’t spend a lot of money on things like clothes or shoes. I tend to spend less money on “things” and more money on experiences that will put a smile on my face.

    Its funny because before I started reading blogs a couple of years ago I was going to Starbucks almost everyday and I just realized I was wasting so much money. I have my own blow money but now I save it for a nice dinner with my husband. That may not be how others would spend their own blow money, but its how I choose to spend mine.

  • Lynn

    One of the things I hate about frugal-themed blogs is how judgmental people tend to be. I love an occasional pumpkin-spice latte (my all time fav too!), a nice dinner out, and we are even taking my girls to Disney in December and not cutting any corners. Do I make sacrifices elsewhere? Absolutely. I don’t spend a lot of money on things like clothes or shoes. I tend to spend less money on “things” and more money on experiences that will put a smile on my face.

    Its funny because before I started reading blogs a couple of years ago I was going to Starbucks almost everyday and I just realized I was wasting so much money. I have my own blow money but now I save it for a nice dinner with my husband. That may not be how others would spend their own blow money, but its how I choose to spend mine.

  • mary b

    I am all for the occasional splurge (esp. if it is planned!). If you are trying to be frugal in order to get out of debt then allotting money for a small pleasure is good to keep you motivated.

    I think sometimes people judge what others are splurging on if the splurger is always complaining about having to be frugal or not being able to afford things, yet we see them with a new vehicle, or vacations, a new pricy handbag, etc. Usually those people don’t embrace frugality and have planned splurges, they are just not willing or able to make lifestyle changes.

    My splurges are often things to make my children happy, like paying for them to play in their favorite sports league. Next would be a nice sushi dinner :)

  • mary b

    I am all for the occasional splurge (esp. if it is planned!). If you are trying to be frugal in order to get out of debt then allotting money for a small pleasure is good to keep you motivated.

    I think sometimes people judge what others are splurging on if the splurger is always complaining about having to be frugal or not being able to afford things, yet we see them with a new vehicle, or vacations, a new pricy handbag, etc. Usually those people don’t embrace frugality and have planned splurges, they are just not willing or able to make lifestyle changes.

    My splurges are often things to make my children happy, like paying for them to play in their favorite sports league. Next would be a nice sushi dinner :)

  • http://www.tangreen.net Tan @ Tan/Green

    So glad you included “don’t judge” – I use that within the household…my splurges are different than my hubby’s…but we both know our “splurge” limit and don’t have too many!

  • http://www.tangreen.net Tan @ Tan/Green

    So glad you included “don’t judge” – I use that within the household…my splurges are different than my hubby’s…but we both know our “splurge” limit and don’t have too many!

  • Amanda G

    Tried to download the cheat sheet, and the text isn’t showing up. HELP!!! ;-)

  • http://www.kitchenstewardship.com Katie

    If anyone is interested to see the changes from last year to this year (although I can’t speak to WHY they happen), I noted them here: http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/04/29/2010-dirty-dozen-produce-list-released-by-the-ewg/
    Thanks for the download! Very cool.
    :) Katie

  • Mandi

    Hmm, Amanda — I have no idea why it’s not working, but I’m going to respond to your comment by email and attach a copy for you!

    If this happens to anyone else, just let me know!

  • Mandi

    We could probably include that at the end of every post, huh? LOL!

  • Mandi

    Well, I guess I’d still say “don’t judge”, but you’re right, those are totally different circumstances!

  • Mandi

    We could probably include that at the end of every post, huh? LOL!

  • Mandi

    Well, I guess I’d still say “don’t judge”, but you’re right, those are totally different circumstances!

  • Mandi

    Right, Lynn — there’s a fine line, and I think you enjoy your Starbucks more when it’s a splurge instead of an everyday thing!

    Have an awesome time at Disney — we spent a day there last December (one loooooooooooong day, LOL!), and it was an amazing experience!

  • Mandi

    Oh, they’re SO cute!!

  • Mandi

    Right, Lynn — there’s a fine line, and I think you enjoy your Starbucks more when it’s a splurge instead of an everyday thing!

    Have an awesome time at Disney — we spent a day there last December (one loooooooooooong day, LOL!), and it was an amazing experience!

  • Mandi

    Oh, they’re SO cute!!

  • http://TheHomeschoolOrganizer.com Belinda

    Thank you Danisa – I had the same question!

  • http://www.manylittleblessings.com Angie @ Many Little Blessings

    Love that you included both the “don’t judge” and that you shared what some of your splurges are. Thanks for such an honest post!

  • http://www.manylittleblessings.com Angie @ Many Little Blessings

    Love that you included both the “don’t judge” and that you shared what some of your splurges are. Thanks for such an honest post!

  • http://www.manylittleblessings.com/2010/09/many-little-links-september-12-2010/ Many Little Links: September 12, 2010

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  • http://mominmanagement.com Daria

    Great post. Very well said. I have found that watching my nickels is kind of like a diet… if I try to eliminate EVERYTHING, then I won’t stick with it and will splurge – either on chocolate cake, or on a purchase. I absolutely have to give myself permission for the *splurges* so that I will stay on track.

    Ditto on all the comments, re: judging. Not only does it apply to this topic, but across many others also. Find what works for you, share your ideas with others, wish them the best and then move on. Why do you care what choices they make for them? There are so many other places to put that energy than in senseless competition and trying to 1-up your neighbor (either real world or virtual one).

    Live life. Enjoy life. Wish the best on others that they are also living and enjoying their lives.

    Thank you again, for a great post. BTW – I found you through @angie76 on twitter (http://manylittleblessings.com).

  • http://mominmanagement.com Daria

    Great post. Very well said. I have found that watching my nickels is kind of like a diet… if I try to eliminate EVERYTHING, then I won’t stick with it and will splurge – either on chocolate cake, or on a purchase. I absolutely have to give myself permission for the *splurges* so that I will stay on track.

    Ditto on all the comments, re: judging. Not only does it apply to this topic, but across many others also. Find what works for you, share your ideas with others, wish them the best and then move on. Why do you care what choices they make for them? There are so many other places to put that energy than in senseless competition and trying to 1-up your neighbor (either real world or virtual one).

    Live life. Enjoy life. Wish the best on others that they are also living and enjoying their lives.

    Thank you again, for a great post. BTW – I found you through @angie76 on twitter (http://manylittleblessings.com).

  • Mandi

    I love this question, Daria: “Why do you care what choices they make for them?” I think that’s what it boils down to!

  • Mandi

    I love this question, Daria: “Why do you care what choices they make for them?” I think that’s what it boils down to!

  • Leigh

    ALL berries should be organic, since we eat their skins and they are especially hard to clean. Ever tried scrubbing a raspberry? :)

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